Almost all children will be difficult or demanding at times, especially toddlers. The difference between naughty behaviour and challenging / disruptive behaviours is naughty behaviours are easily prevented/ reduced or stopped with minimal disturbance to the individual and the families daily routine. Those behaviours which persist or become so severe that they cause major problems for families or communities or the individual themselves are considered challenging or disruptive behaviours.

Excessively disruptive or aggressive behaviour at any age should be taken seriously. It should not be dismissed as a 'phase' or something they will 'grow out of'. Such behaviour in children and adolescents whether they have a disability associated with such problems may begin with frequent loss of temper, irritability, impulsive behaviour, or becoming easily frustrated.

When a parent or other adult in frequent contact with the child is concerned about the child's behaviour, professional advice should be sought. Health professionals, including counselors and psychologists, teachers and therapists, can help parents identify problems and ways to help their child cope with difficulties. Aggressive behaviour may include:

• explosive temper tantrums


• physical aggression toward others; fighting, threats or attempts to hurt others


• use of weapons


• cruelty towards family pets or other animals


• self injurious behaviour – biting, head banging etc


• intentional destruction of property, or vandalism.

Discipline should be about learning and should not be harsh or unfair. Physical punishment will often make children's behaviour even more difficult. Seeing or hearing domestic violence can affect children and adolescents as much as being assaulted. Violent television programmes or video games may also affect vulnerable young children. Violence often leads to violence.

Tantrums happen when children feel frustrated or stressed. Occasional tantrums are a normal stage of development in young children. Parents should be concerned if tantrums become extreme or constant. Some things parents can do to help children get over tantrums are:

• spend regular and relaxed time with them individually and as a family group


• let them know you notice the good things they do and praise them


• consider other stresses affecting the child such as a new baby in the family or parents arguing.


• Use reward systems and record behaviours and what triggers them

Behavioural problems may affect a child or adolescent's ability to solve problems, cope with life stresses, learn at school and enjoy normal activities with their family and friends. No matter how your children may behave, they need to know that you will not harm or leave them. Children need to know that their parent(s) can help them to manage their feelings. Teach your child that feelings can be managed and expressed in helpful ways. Early treatment for behaviour problems can help a child to:

• learn how to control their behaviour


• learn how to express anger and frustration in non-harmful ways


• be responsible for their actions, and accept the consequences of their actions.